I apologize to all my friends that I introduced Myers Briggs (MBTI) typology to. MBTI tests are crap and so are the descriptions. The descriptions are too broad and reads like astrology. Most people also confuse character traits for cognitive functions. For example: outgoing and social people are not always extroverted. It depends on what motivates a person to socialize. This can not simply be learned by watching people. You must get to know them. In order to find your true type, you must understand the cognitive functions, be honest, pair that with enneagram and you should be able to apply typology type theory in your daily lives and relationships without feeling like your personality is being inhibited. Lastly, don’t become obsessed with type theory. Get to know people and enjoy their presence instead of analyzing them. I speak from experience. These were my own mistakes.
1. Study cognitive functions. Your dominate/most used function determines whether or not you’re an introvert, extrovert, thinker or feeler. If you’re an INFJ, you’re actually a perceiver and not a judger because your dominant function is introverted intuition. Introverted intuition is a perceiving function in which a person foresees outcomes depending on their gut feeling.
2. Drop the P and J theory which is–if you are orderly you are a judger, if you’re unplanned, you’re perceiving. Whether or not you color coordinate your closet has nothing to do with how you make life decisions.
3. Drop the extroverted vs introverted theory. Whether you like people and socialize also doesn’t mean you’re extroverted.
4. Just because you’re more rational than emotional also does not mean you’re a thinker vs feeler.
It all comes down to deciding whether or not you are dominated by thinking, feeling, intuition or sensing. If your dominate function is extroverted, then you are extroverted. Example: my dominate function is introverted intuition (Ni). I enjoy socializing and people. A lot of people think I’m extroverted because I’m social. That’s because my 2nd function is extroverted feeling (Fe). Fe is engaging and interested in people, but my dominant function is introverted. My friend, Mike used the analogy, “I like painting houses, but after painting an entire house, I’m exhausted.”
In socionics I’m an IEI (INFp). In MBTI that is equivelent to an INFJ. My creative function is extroverted feeling (Fe) which is based off dynamic observations, therefore making me perceiving. When I took MBTI tests, I came out as INFP because I’m messy. I know I am not INFP because that would mean my dominate function is introverted feeling (Fi). That would mean I’m very aware of my feelings and how I feel towards others. That’s not me. I like everyone until you screw up multiple times. I like asking for advice and feedback because I don’t know what I want. Fi folks are very aware of what they feel and how they feel about others. They tend to not enjoy feedback even if they asked for it. If an Fi-user asks you how they look, never answer.
Here’s how I have applied typology into my daily life: As many know, I’m an activist. I have a lot of people ask me about Guantanamo. First, I decide whether or not this person makes decisions based on logic or on feelings. If I think they’re a thinker, I then decide if they are introverted thinking (Ti) or extroverted thinking (Te). If they’re Ti, I’m gonna’ take my time explaining the history of Guantanamo to them. Then, I’ll end it with, “I can not imagine living in a world like this.” If they’re a Te-user, I’ll throw facts at them. Example: Guantanamo costs 2.7 million dollars per detainee per year.
If I decide they are a feeler: for the extroverted feelers (Fe) I will tell stories of detainees, for introverted feelers (Fi) I will tell them about Dilawar, which is the most dramatic and heart breaking story I know. End with, “Imagine this was your brother or father.” Sensors usually don’t give a sh*it about Guantanamo and just try to argue with me. If they’re religious I’ll probably say something like, “Jesus was tortured. You’re a bad Christian.”
If you would like me to type you, we can arrange for a free session. I’m very good at reading people, it’s my Ni. I can do it while on my laptop with headphones. If you would like me to give you counseling sessions, I will do that as long as you don’t blame me for bad advice.
Introverted intuition (Ni) – the ability to recognize the unfolding of processes over time (how one event leads to another), have visions of the past and future, develop mental imagery, and see intangible hints of relationships between processes or objects. Day dreaming of the future, appears aloof.
Extroverted intuition (Ne) – the ability to recognize possibilities, create new opportunities and new beginnings, recognize talent and natural propensities in others, reconcile differing perspectives and viewpoints, rapidly generate ideas, and be led by one’s intellectual curiosity and stimulate curiosity in others. Appears excited and acts randomly.
Extroverted feeling (Fe) – the ability to recognize and convey (i.e. make others experience) passions, moods, and emotional states, generate excitement, liveliness, and feelings, get emotionally involved in activities and emotionally involve others, recognize and describe emotional interaction between people and groups, and build a sense of community and emotional unity. Expressive, enjoys community living, attentive to the feeling of an entire room.
Introverted feeling (Fi) – the ability to gain an implicit sense of the subjective ‘distance’ between two people, and make judgments based off of said thing. Types with valued strive to make and maintain close, personal relationships with their friends and family. They value sensitivity to others’ feelings, and occasionally will make their innermost feelings and sentiments known in order to test the possibility of creating closeness with others. Also, these types convey emotions in terms of how they were affected by something (such as “I did not like that”), rather than an extroverted ethics () approach that would describe the object itself without clear reference to the subject involved (such as “That sucked”). Much of their decisions are based on how they themselves, or others in relation to them personally, feel in contrast to considering how “the big picture” is affected (such as groups of people.) Emotions are internalized so faces are not expressive.
Extroverted Sensing (Se) – the ability to know how much power, force, or influence is latent or required. Types that value are much more comfortable with direct behavior aimed at making an immediate impact. This may at times be perceived as abrasive, particularly by types who do not value . There is usually a competitive edge to this style of group interaction, resulting in a more intense atmosphere than that of introverted sensing ()-valuing quadras. They appreciate contemplating possibilities only if they feel like they stand to gain something from it, or it has a perceived potential impact on “the real world”. Se is good at sports.
Introverted Sensing (Si) – the ability to internalize sensations and to experience them in full detail. Focuses on tangible, direct (external) connections (introverted) between processes (dynamic) happening in one time, i.e. the physical, sensual experience of interactions between objects. This leads to an awareness of internal tangible physical states and how various physical fluctuations or substances are directly transferred between objects, such as motion, temperature, or dirtiness. The awareness of these tangible physical processes consequently leads to an awareness of health, or an optimum balance with one’s environment. The individual physical reaction to concrete surroundings is main way we perceive and define aesthetics, comfort, convenience, and pleasure. These guys are generally in better shape than intuitives because they’re aware of their bodies.
Introverted Thinking (Ti) – the ability to recognize logical consistency and correctness, generate and apply classifications and systems, organize systematic and conceptual understanding, see logical connections between things (including logical similarities, differences, and correlations) by means of instinctive feelings of validity, symmetry, and even beauty. It is like common sense, in that it builds on one’s expectations of reality, through a somewhat personal, though explicable, understanding of general truths and how they are manifested. Ti learns for the sake of knowledge.
Extroverted Thinking (Te) – Extroverted logic deals with the external activity of objects, i.e the how, what and where of events, activity or work, behaviour, algorithms, movement, and actions. The how, what and where of events would be the external activity of events, activity or work would be the external activity of a machine or individual(s) and algorithms describe the external activity of objects. Te applies their knowledge.